Growth Takes Courage

During my teaching days in prison I helped my students deal with their anger issues. The course lasted 6 weeks and on the last day we would have a small quiet graduation ceremony in the classroom. I always liked giving my students a pep talk and offer some words of encouragement. On one occasion I read them a poem called “CALM.” I wrote this poem from the perspective of being a student on the class.

“CALM”

As the day unfolds I look at myself. What do I see? For the first time I’m faced at looking deep within. I’m scared. But I also realize for growth to occur I must explore the depths of my being.

What stirs my emotions? My feelings, my pains. What gives me pleasure? Why am I so angry? Whatever it is that drives these powerful emotions, perhaps is the answer that will give meaning and purpose to my life

I am no longer the same person. My new experiences have opened up a new dimension in me. New possibilities but more importantly an improved attitude. I’m not the same person anymore. I know it will not be easy but because of my persistence and determination I will gain new insights.

How will I deal with my anger in the future? By being aware. forgiving on the spot, think before speaking, stop before reacting. The secret is to stay in control.

When I am in control my buttons are harder to push. My reactions are more deliberate, I am more thoughtful, I think more clearly. I can’t be angry and at peace at this same time. Because I desire more tranquility and peace in my life, I will choose peace over anger most of the time. What about you? What do you choose?

In this poem some key issues were addressed about growth. Throughout our lives we are growing in some way or another. A person dealing with anger issues must be willing to learn some strategies that can help them overcome their anger.

Change is not easy. It takes dedication, persistence, and courage to change a behavior that you have had for a long time, but it is possible. We are constantly dealing with change in one way or another. The more we accept change as a normal part of living, the better off we are going to be. The bottom line. Accept change and grow. Until the next time your friend Carbie.